From what I've seen so far, a number of men claim to be qualified for the job, but lack the necessary skills to take on the task. But fellas, you're in luck! Listen up as this blog
not very gently teaches you what it takes to be her Man on the Side.
Rule number 1: Know Your Role.
- What it means ~ You must keep in mind that you are not the Star Player. Repeat: You. Are. Not. The. Star. Player. She's in love with him. She's in lust with you. He comes first, always. She doesn't have expectations of you, and you shouldn't have expectations of her. Unanswered/unreturned calls, voice mails & texts are inevitable, pal. Especially if she's engaged in some good ole QT with Mr. Man. She likes you, and she likes spending time with you. But please, don't fool yourself. She is not going to leave him and ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after with you.
She has only one requirement of you: give her what her man does not. Is she a snuggle bunny, but her guy isn't much of a cuddler? Rent some movies, order take-out and spend a nice quiet evening holding her. And don't forget to play in her hair and kiss her on the forehead for good measure (lol). Is her sexual appetite too voracious for her sweety? Call her in the middle of the day for a lunch time quickie. Head to your local adult store, grab a few choice trinkets and spend the day and/or night exhausting each other. Is she adventurous in the bedroom, but has a more meek man? Tie her wrists up, blindfold her, give her a feather massage, an oil rub down, cuff her ankles, lick her feet, clamp some nipple pinchers on her & bite her booty cheeks. And choke her a lil bit too, if that's what she likes (you'd be surprised how many of us like that).
If she's searching for a Man on the Side, her relationship is lacking something. All she wants you to do is fill the void.
- What it means ~ At times, she will talk to you about her relationship troubles, but she is not seeking your opinions or advice. She has homegirls for that. She just needs to vent. Look at her and nod, embrace her, change the subject even. There are a number of things you could do. But what you do not want to do is say something bad about Mr. Man or suggest she end their relationship. If and when she wants to end things with him, she will. Bashing her man or pressuring her to leave him will only drive her away from you. And quicker than you think.
There a exceptions, but usually, she doesn't want a "sweet-talker". So save your I love you whispers and keep the thinking of you texts & e-mails to an absolute bare minimum. Your promises of baby I'll do this & that for you annoy the hell out of her and go in one ear and out the other. Very few women want begging & groveling outside of role playing.
You're her getaway. You should always be a relief, and never an added stress.
So there you have it, the two basic guidelines to being her Man on the Side - knowing your role and shutting your mouth.